It's better just to love them as much as possible unconditionally and compassionately.
They may expect from you sometimes too much. You have to remember that you're human as well. Do not let their maybe too high expectations poison your soul. You have to love yourself as much as possible unconditionally and compassionately.
You're enough, you're beautiful, you're loved.
Forgive yourself and those for they don't know what they do.
No one is guilty. We are conditioned the way we are and those who did it to us are innocent as well. They like us, do what their parents and life circumstances tort them to do.
Most probably we would do the same when we would live their life.
Love them all but you may still stop their actions - that's one of the ways to make them aware that they can choose for better.
This is another fragment of my book "Conversations with God and Goddess within and outside"